Every child born is different and usually comes to the lives of their parents in different circumstances. The first child, the eldest, comes to a home without children, but those who come next do not. The parents' life is constantly evolving and this is a reason to love each one in a different way, but this does not mean that one child is loved more than another.
When the first child appears, he is the only one and the parents are usually very aware of him. At the other extreme, the last child for the same reason, as if it were the last opportunity, is also very much on top of him, even more so than with the first. Those who appear in the middle, are usually those who may feel more relegated as they grow freer because parents do not expect so much from them as with the first child.
Jealousy appears before the arrival of a brother, since the elder feels his place threatened and it is logical and positive to express this feeling. The quarrels between brothers have their good side, since they allow the brothers to develop socialization strategies that will apply to other relationships. The only solution they have left is to learn to file differences and respect each other by looking for their space according to their personalities and abilities. On the contrary, there are also brothers who are nail and flesh, in this case, usually the little idolater to the elder.
Some parents are not aware of jealousy between brothers or perhaps, they ignore them thinking that they will disappear, and this is a mistake. Often the child experiences a setback in language, pees again, etc. We must not close our eyes and we must pay attention and try to make him understand, reminding him that he is the eldest son and that he has more understanding than his brother.
When there is a discussion between siblings, if it is mild, it is best not to intervene since these discussions also serve to learn to solve their conflicts in equality, of course if the discussion passes to a greater degree, if it is necessary to intervene. Sometimes parents give their children everything equally and this is neither good nor logical. If there is a birthday, it is necessary to give the gift to the one who celebrates it only and that the other brother knows how to wait for his appointed day. We say this because it has become fashionable that, on the birthday of a son, his brothers are also given a small gift or detail causing frustration, it is preferable that they wait for their appointed day.
When one of the brothers puts in front of his parents that more attention is paid to the other brother, maybe it is true and we do not realize and it would be very successful that we analyze if it is so and look for the most appropriate solution for the good development of the family.
