'Dear daughter, you are worthy of interest in yourself, and your goal should be to find out what is inside your soul (an unbreakable place that does not change despite losses or rejections). I'd like to tell you something about the boy who won't need you to keep his interest, because he'll know you're interesting.
These are some of the paragraphs that the American psychologist Kelly M. Flanagan has written to his little daughter
But not only her, also her own wife, the adult women she has met, and to the generation of children who will become men, because before they grow up, someone must remind them 'what is really important'.
A fortuitous episode has motivated a sincere, hopeful and emotional letter. The origin of everything was a search on Google, and the verification that the ranking of results are shown by the entries on 'how to interest men'. In other words, articles on 'how to be sexy', or how to help them 'feel superior'.
My mother! That at this point the girls are thinking about how to like, instead of also growing inside and loving themselves a lot ... This seems like a 'deja vu'!
We have already been through this before, but now they should seek reciprocal relationships in which people admire and love each other for their way of being, and help each other to be better.
Kelly's letter to her girl
The letter that this father wrote, has gone around social networks, and intends to convey that in the end, the best thing she can do to keep her partner's interest, will be 'be herself'.
I don't care if you put your elbows on the table, as long as you put your eyes on the way your nose is puckered when you smile. And then I can't stop looking at you.
I don't care if he can't play golf with me, as long as he can play with the children you give him and enjoy how they look like you.
I don't care if he doesn't chase the money, as long as he follows his heart and it takes him back to you.
I don't care if he's strong, as long as he gives you space to exert the force in your heart.
I could not care less if you vote, as long as you get up every morning and choose a place of honor in your home and a place to revere yourself in your heart.
I don't care about the color of his skin, as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, sacrifice, vulnerability and tenderness.
I don't care if he was educated in this religion or in another or none, as long as he has been educated to value the sacred and to know that every moment of life and every moment that passes with you is something deeply sacred.
I agree with Kelly that not only girls should internalize this message, but also boys, because love must always start with respect and appreciation To the other person.
